Being angry often leads to poor decision-making. I know this. And yet, I still find my emotions boiling over and regretting my behavior afterwards. I’m not a hothead, but I definitely want to deal with adversity better.
Then I came across a quote that really resonated with me:
“You can’t be curious and angry at the same time.”
I think that’s brilliant. Curiosity, in this context, means identifying the true source of frustration or understanding someone else’s conflicting point of view. Lashing out at others is replaced by having empathy for them.
At the very least, an analytic mindset is far more productive than an attacking one. Worth a try.