Earning Tomorrow

Having the trust of customers and sufficient cash flow enables a company to stay in business.

When both sides put effort into a relationship then the partnership is more resilient when problems arise.

Proper sleep, exercise, and diet leads to a longer, healthier life.

Yes, we all want to excel. But sometimes just focusing on the right things is enough to keep playing the game.

Going on Tilt Is Not Helpful

Within poker circles, money not lost is as good as money won. Put another way, you have to avoid bad decisions in addition to making good decisions.

Useful advice at the card tables, but also in stressful situations where frustration can override rational thinking.

How to Not Feel Good

I’m wondering if the most dangerous thing I can do for my self-esteem is measuring myself against other people’s standards of success.

I get to decide what matters. So do you.

Counterproductive Behavior

Criticizing others and draining their motivation with harsh words.

Punishing someone out of anger.

Throwing a fit when people perform short of expectations.

An alternative? Give others the space to share their perspective, and to approach a solution based on common ground.

Empathy and collaboration takes hard work, but produces far better results than personal attacks.

Being Right Is Overrated

Especially when you cause someone to lose face.

Positive change requires allies, not enemies. Getting on the same side isn’t possible when oversized egos are in the way.

Showing Your Work (As You Go)

Until recently, I held the belief that getting better at something is best done in private.

After all, making public mistakes is embarrassing. Performing in front of others increases anxiety while inviting criticism. Who wants to deal with that?

When I learned piano as a kid, I would practice either by myself or with my teacher, until I was ready to play my songs at a recital. That was my approach. Minimal witnesses until I achieved a certain level of competence.

I think the internet changed my perspective. These days, media content from videos, podcasts, and blog posts are produced by both experts and beginners. Any passion or interest can be shared digitally online. No matter who you are, making your work public has a number of potential benefits:

  • Your work could end up being helpful to someone else, right now.
  • You can receive useful feedback that will improve your future work.
  • You become accountable, which can elevate both your work’s quality and quantity.
  • Your work might lead to more attention, trust, and connection. Or an unexpected opportunity.

Kudos to everyone with the courage to show their work. You’re an inspiration.

Flipping the Excuse

Rationalization is an easy way to avoid stuff we should be doing.

“I’ll get to it in a minute.”

“It doesn’t really matter in the big scheme of things.”

“It’s not my problem.”

So why can’t we rationalize to our benefit?

“Working on this challenge is like playing a game.”

“If I start sooner I’ll be done sooner.”

“I’ll just commit to this small, simple step. That’s something I know I can do.”

Our brains can be convinced by easy. The trick is to nudge ourselves in the right direction.

The Inconvenient Take

We don’t want to hear it.

When someone’s point-of-view makes us uncomfortable, our instinct is to run away.

When someone says something to challenge our beliefs or disrupt our worldview, we’re inclined to rationalize why the offending statement is wrong.

I know these feelings well. They distress me too.

And yet, I wonder how many opportunities I’ve missed to understand a different perspective, which would enable me to be empathetic or even enlightened.

There will always be people who hold different positions than our own. Dismissing them without consideration is the easier path, but not necessarily the smarter one.

Unwarranted Rage

When someone does or says something that hurts me, I sometimes become angry. There’s a vague sense that I’m being attacked and my instinct is to defend myself.

I realize there are problems with this reaction, because most of the time, there’s no intention to cause me pain. It only feels personal, which makes it real in my mind. Given these facts, I need to be more careful on how I choose to perceive another person’s behavior.

After all, there’s very little upside to being offended.

Giving Credit Before It’s Due

It’s human nature to draw conclusions before having all the details. But for some reason, that often means judging and condemning another person.

Why don’t we see more of the opposite behavior and give someone the benefit of the doubt?

The story we tell ourselves becomes our reality. If we want to live in a world where people are good to each other, it helps to visualize that scenario as probable, not just possible.